How To Plan And Direct A Wedding Ceremony Rehearsal:
A Detailed Guide For Orchestrating A Ceremony Rehearsal The Right Way!
By James Loram
Here it is! A step by step guide to planning and directing a wedding ceremony rehearsal.
In this book, you will get:
Forward: Why I wrote this guide in the first place.
1. The Planning: Get your ducks (wedding party and family) in a row.
2. The Agenda: Options and suggestions for the ceremony events.
3. The Music: Plug in the songs for each event.
4. The Equipment: Microphones for the minister.
5. The Rehearsal: A step by step guide to directing the ceremony rehearsal.
6. The Final Word: It’s about having fun!
7. BONUS CHAPTER! The Wedding Songs Timeline Planner – CEREMONY ONLY edition: A complete wedding ceremony planning guide.
This book will turn ANYONE into a Wedding Rehearsal Master!
Now, here is the Forward for you to read, for free!!!
Forward: Why I wrote this guide in the first place.
It all started before I ever directed my first ceremony rehearsal. I was just a DJ, but I wanted to be much more than that. There are plenty of “Just A DJ” types out there. I wanted to take it to the next level. To achieve this, I decided to start attending the wedding ceremony rehearsals of my clients. If I happened to be hired to provide sound and support for the ceremony, I took it upon myself to attend the practice. Sure, I didn’t need to, but again, I wanted to excel and be the best at what I do.
And it was at one of these rehearsals that something appalling happened.
The wedding coordinator was a little stressed out and hectic and this attitude was having an affect on the enjoyment of the rehearsal (no, this isn’t what was so appalling). The main issue was she never took the time to sit down with the couple before the ceremony rehearsal and plan it all out. Her thinking might have been along the lines of, “Well, I’ve done a few ceremony rehearsals before and they are all the same thing–just different people! I don’t need to plan it.”
But she did need to plan it. And it turns out she DID plan it–right there at the rehearsal as it was happening!
As the coordinator was putting the parents in their front row seats, she saw that the Bride’s dad was sitting in the first chair. Typically, the Brides’ mom sits in that chair.
She said, “Oh, you…get up! That’s not your seat!”
She was trying to be playful, and that normally would have been great. She was trying to be fun and that’s awesome.
But then she said, “That’s the Bride’s MOM’S seat! Where’s the Bride’s mom at? Bring her up here!”
The problem was, the Bride’s mom passed away 8 months ago!
Ugh, right? It all happened too fast for me to intervene and avoid this train wreck. It was like I was in slow motion, trying to jump in and stop it…“N-O-O-O-O-O-O-O-O-o-o-o-o-o!!!”
But it was too late. The Bride started sobbing, the dad got upset (at first he was simply upset, but then he was pissed off!), and the rest of the family just did their best to console everyone.
See, everyone knew the Bride’s mom just passed away and anyone involved in this wedding should have known. Hell, I was “just the DJ” and I even knew!
This was the defining moment when I decided that never again will one of my clients suffer from such an experience on what’s supposed to be the happiest times of their lives. I decided I would always plan out the details of my client’s ceremony and direct the rehearsal If they had a coordinator, I would send a copy to the location and the coordinator. Now, everyone will be on the same page and the ceremony rehearsal should go off without a hitch, even if I’m not directing it.
This is why I wrote this guide. It’s for all those wedding professionals and/or family members, DJ’s, catering managers–even aunts who get shoved into the “coordinator” position against their will!–who don’t have a lot of experience with the ceremony rehearsal and need some more detailed information on how to do it right.
The number one thing that couples and families stress about is the wedding ceremony. By running a smooth-flowing and FUN rehearsal, you will be saving EVERYONE from a lot of strife! By running a choppy, unorganized rehearsal, you will be adding to the stress!
I’ve worked with so many great wedding planners and coordinators who really have this down solid. And I’ve worked with other “professionals” who literally have no idea what they are doing, are so dry and come off as downright bothered to be doing a rehearsal, or they simply have never been shown the best way to put on a ceremony rehearsal. What follows is a detailed and easy plan to put together a ceremony agenda and then orchestrate a rehearsal that is organized, controlled, but most importantly FUN and enjoyable. If you read this guide and follow the advice, you will become a Ceremony Rehearsal Master!
Now, here’s another quick story from the book about a BAD wedding coordinator:
Story time: I recently worked at a location that supplied a wedding coordinator. I came to the rehearsal as a courtesy to my clients. This coordinator was young and relatively new so she didn’t know even half the tips you are learning here today. The other problem was she was full of herself. There was NO WAY she was going to listen to advice from ANYONE.
Low and behold, she starts the ceremony rehearsal from the Processionals. People were walking down the aisle, not sure where to go or how to stand. The parents had no idea where they were sitting. There was no one to take care of the unruly kids. It was mayhem. And the wedding party and family were uncomfortable!
I ended up jumping in and helping (to the irritation of the coordinator) so eventually the rehearsal smoothed out. Later, the coordinator had a TERRIBLE impact on the success of the reception because she had her own personal agenda that focused on HER NEEDS and not on the overall success of the wedding day. Instead of listening and learning from other professionals, she simply disregarded any suggestions and pushed on with her ideas. Thanks to her, the flow of the night was choppy, the guests left early, and the celebration wasn’t anywhere near as awesome as it should have been.
Unfortunately, the location either doesn’t know or doesn’t care that this coordinator is having a negative impact on their reputation. Don’t let this happen to your wedding!
If you are going to be directing a wedding ceremony rehearsal, the information in this book is crucial to your success! I hope you get it, read it, apply it, and orchestrate an amazing wedding rehearsal.